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Thanks, Anita. Yea, she also said grandma and grandpa "take my side". It's awfully hard to take her side when she pulls her shenanigans all the time. Her bday is this coming weekend and we considered not even doing the birthday party honestly. Everyone is just hurt by her behaviors. Mind you, if a friend calls, she is out the door in short order and no longer too tired or whatever to see people. It just gets old. You know what I mean. And same thing....I did not say anything or do anything yet she cannot accept that this incident was caused by her, not me. She does not even care when she hurts my feelings. That kinda worries me that she has no sympathy or empathy for others...or maybe just me...don't know. I'm sure my stepdad was hurt she didn't come over. I mean, really, it's freakin' next door.

I told her to be ready today for her appointments and she stated she could not promise. Oh boy.

Thanks all. I went to the appointment alone as A. was not awake and refused to get ready. Sigh. We kinda got into a similar situation as on Sunday so I just left. Doctor said don't let her get away with it. So, when I got home, I explained we would forget about the past but from now on I am leaving her a short list of things to do during the day and she will be expected to do it. Her laptop and cell phone are at stake. Last night, she got a good night's sleep and was cheery as could be this morning. She said she hadn't slept for two nights. This explains the issue I think. I didn't know about it at the time.

In any event, she is going over to grandma's later to apologize to grandma. We'll see what happens there. She also stated she wants to look for a job. Not sure but that is what she says.

Doctor upped her Abilify to 15 mg and added 30 mg Vyvanse to help with the overeating and the tiredness overall but mostly for her concentration. She is not able to watch a DVD or read a book, leading to boredom (in my opinion). She cannot sit there very long when she is awake and I think when she gets bored, she just sleeps. A vicious cycle.

I took her scrips to be filled yesterday after the appointment. She goes again July 28th and she must go so giving grandparents a heads up on the date and time in case we have an issue.

We'll see what happens from here. Thanks for all the sympathy and wisdom, ladies. I'll keep you posted on how she does with all this stuff. It sure gets old. Especially after she's been good for a long time...scary when things go bad.

My other option for later use is that ex has connections through his AA program to a place she could go for women with addictions. It is kinda rough...it is a residential thing...although she does not have the addiction issue, it's a hard core program where they are expected to be up at 7 a.m., do chores, and attend group AA meetings all day. That is my "last straw" approach if things don't improve. I think it would shock her. Of course, it's a bit scary, but something she may need to go through if I don't see improvement in respectfulness. Although as of this morning, she seems back to baseline and reasonable. Time will tell.

A. needs to be able to focus for one thing...next, my mom is home all day. She was supposedly going to visit with grandma today but no answer on the cell phone so I don't know. She needs to get a job or something...anything! I am thankful she is mostly bored and not being rotten as far as getting into trouble with friends, drugs, drinking, etc. That's the upside.

I guess with my dd, her being an only child, and only grandchild, the 18th "party" is for me and my mom and not her. LOL. It's not really even a party, I must say...just dinner of her choice at grandparents' house. I probably won't end up taking her to Red Lobster though like she asked. That is enough of a punishment I think. I'll have to carefully consider that though...not sure yet. See how she acts this week and I'll decide at that point.

Yes, I'm not sure about the Matt thing, gosh, what DO you do? I guess let him take the lead? Text Happy Bday?? I surely don't know.

Yea, you're right, Lynne, that's where I am struggling. I talked to her dad earlier and he said to "ease up" on her about the bday. I guess it's a knee jerk thing for me...worried her behavior will go nuts again and I'll have a "situation" on my hands, LOL.

I think I will hold the cell phone and laptop over her as a consequence and not mess with the bday stuff. Tempting but really I don't think it's such a good idea after contemplating it and seeing that when I came home she did make an effort to clean up and took the garbage out. She very proudly reported such to me and was cheerful.

So, I think we will see this as a temporary setback. I definitely expect her to apologize to SD and try to make amends...I agree!

Thanks to everyone for caring...I appreciate it so much.