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justlovehim

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(07/06/09 05:59 PM)

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"For I know the plans I have for you ... plans for a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

Heather, I LOVE Amish Country. On the way up there I was thinking, Heather is only a couple hours away from here. I used to go up there and meet my mom for the day. Wonderful memories with her!!

Chris

DS-Matt,17 : DSolder- 24 : DD- 22

Depression, dx May 2008, ADHD- dx age 9
refuses meds and NOT LIVING AT HOME BY HIS CHOICE
Waiting to see if he will attend the "Mountaineer ChalleNGe Academy"
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" Philippians 4:4

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I dreamed of many things when he was born ...

His actions remind me of the title of the book, I Hate You, Don't Leave Me. I'm sorry he hurt DD.

Rayni, mom to Nick, 22, SSI, topamax, abilify, buspar, (Asperger's, bipolar, anxiety); prilosec (reflux); zyrtec-D, nasal spray (allergies); metformin (insulin resistance)

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(07/07/09 04:59 AM)

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"Life is a millstone - YOU decide if it's going to grind you down or polish you up."

Also sorry he hurt his sister's feelings. What a shame. His behaviors are so disappointing! I wonder if dd really will be done with him or not. I guess we'll see about it.

Yep, you were only a few hours away from me in Amish Country!! How long is it to drive from your place in WV?

Heather
Mom of Alexa, (17 years old) Diagnosed BP-NOS (09/05), updated to BP II w/psychotic features (05/08)
Oppositional Defiant Disorder
Abilify (10 mg), Lamictal (200 mg), Klonipin (.5 mg) as needed, Vyvanse (30 mg)
Topamax at night only (100 mg) Seroquel at night only (200mg) *when she is willing*
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(07/07/09 07:12 AM)

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"For I know the plans I have for you ... plans for a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

It takes me about 3 hrs to get to Sugarcreek. Berlin is my favorite area so it takes a bit longer to get there. I told dh that I could retire there. I love it. He took me to Lancaster several years ago to Pennsylvania Amish.

Chris

DS-Matt,17 : DSolder- 24 : DD- 22

Depression, dx May 2008, ADHD- dx age 9
refuses meds and NOT LIVING AT HOME BY HIS CHOICE
Waiting to see if he will attend the "Mountaineer ChalleNGe Academy"
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" Philippians 4:4

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(07/07/09 01:19 PM)

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Good for your DD, Chris! If I were her, I wouldn't speak with him again until I received a sincere apology. Neither she nor you should give him a birthday gift, as far as I'm concerned, given his horrible behavior toward both of you. Send him a card. He's severing all ties with his family - one by one - and he needs to feel the consequences of his actions. Let's see how he feels if/when none of you speaks with him.

Lynne,
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(07/07/09 08:04 PM)

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"For I know the plans I have for you ... plans for a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

Lynne, I'm really struggling with it. He is severing ties and it hurts alot!

Chris

DS-Matt,17 : DSolder- 24 : DD- 22

Depression, dx May 2008, ADHD- dx age 9
refuses meds and NOT LIVING AT HOME BY HIS CHOICE
Waiting to see if he will attend the "Mountaineer ChalleNGe Academy"
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" Philippians 4:4

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One minute he seems loving and getting his act together, the next he is mean and hateful. Sounds like severe mood swings to me. Have you spoken to A lately about his behavior?

Anita, mom to Kat,25, BP, living with us(sort of),mother to a 4 yr old and 2 yr old,currently off all meds

justlovehim

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(07/08/09 05:03 AM)

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"For I know the plans I have for you ... plans for a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

Yea, I talked to her Monday night. She sees some of it, but not the acting out. She sees the anger, but she said he has done well controlling it. So he CAN!!! He doesn't cuss and punch things, nothing broken yet. She said her dh said Matt needs a dose of reality. I mean, come on, here he is lounging at her house too. No job, no work, no nothing. She said he does pick up after himself and helps out when they ask. WHAT!?!?!? She told me that she calls him on things like when he tells her he has been mean to us. It's a step... at least he admits it. I guess he told her some of the names he has called us. He told her about phosp. She told him we were trying to help and asked him "what were they supposed to do?... you were taking drugs!" Good for her.

I saw him at the church softball game. Again he didn't acknowledge me. I looked at him several times waiting to see... I was just gonna wave at him, but nothing. I was ready this time and it didn't hurt so badly. He looked miserable. Maybe coz I was there and he was nervous. I don't know. Anyway, I texted him later "I love you" and he texted back "I love you 2". Whatever. I just needed to tell him so. I'm dreading church camp.

Chris

DS-Matt,17 : DSolder- 24 : DD- 22

Depression, dx May 2008, ADHD- dx age 9
refuses meds and NOT LIVING AT HOME BY HIS CHOICE
Waiting to see if he will attend the "Mountaineer ChalleNGe Academy"
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" Philippians 4:4

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(07/08/09 05:47 AM)

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I am so sorry Chris. It is so hard. I had to make Jordon go back to his dad's yesterday and THAT was hard. But I agree with A's dh. He definately needs a dose of reality. And my first reaction is the same as Lynne's. If he doesn't want to be a part of the family then why reap any benefits from it at his birthday? But that is you have to do what is right for you and what your heart and head together, tells you.

Many

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Lynn
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Jordon 19- BP II- :goodevil
Not taking any meds.

Alex 16 - Dyslexic and STILL learning to drive slap

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Rob(Bubba) - 19 asperger syndrome - stopped taking meds.

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How long is A going to let him float along over there? It seems that she should be working towards getting him to find a job or enroll in school or something productive if she really wants to help him.

Anita, mom to Kat,25, BP, living with us(sort of),mother to a 4 yr old and 2 yr old,currently off all meds

Tracy

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(07/08/09 09:01 AM)

I too agree that he needs a dose of reality. The lady that assessed Travis said the same about him when we sent him to rehab.

Tracy

Mom of Travis-18 (still trying to figure out a dx.)
was taking Depakote ER 500mg at bedtime
was taking Seroquel 100mg at bedtime
was taking Celexa 20mg/morning

Completely off all meds at this time.

lilyns

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(07/08/09 10:21 AM)

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I totally agree with Anita, Chris. A should insist that he either get a job or go to school as a condition of his living there. She's not really helping by letting him "float" along doing nothing. That could be the main reason he wants to stay there - because he's not being made to do anything.

Lynne,
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jalmil

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(07/08/09 12:22 PM)

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Ditto, with Anita and Lynne.

Lynn
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Jordon 19- BP II- :goodevil
Not taking any meds.

Alex 16 - Dyslexic and STILL learning to drive slap

Step Mom to :
Tasha 22 -healthy -learning to drive slap
Rob(Bubba) - 19 asperger syndrome - stopped taking meds.

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(07/08/09 01:01 PM)

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I wonder how long A and her DH will be willing to let Matt stay with them if he is doing nothing. I'll bet it won't be for very much longer. I would be inclined to let things be and let the situation unravel on its own, which I am pretty sure it will eventually. It may take longer than you would like, but I predict it will happen. The honeymoon won't last forever.

JoAnn, daughter 22, dysphoric bipolar disorder and insulin dependent diabetes, currently controlled with Lamictal, 400mgs, Lithium 450mgs, Seroquel 500mgs, Klonipin 1mg and two types of Insulin

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(07/08/09 06:17 PM)

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"Life is a millstone - YOU decide if it's going to grind you down or polish you up."

JoAnnSW wrote:
I wonder how long A and her DH will be willing to let Matt stay with them if he is doing nothing. I'll bet it won't be for very much longer. I would be inclined to let things be and let the situation unravel on its own, which I am pretty sure it will eventually. It may take longer than you would like, but I predict it will happen. The honeymoon won't last forever.

I agree with JoAnn's post. It will happen on its own quite soon I am sure...perhaps not swiftly, but soon enough. Bide your time. I am sorry he was meanish at the game. Glad he texted with the return of love message, though. Brat. This guy sounds incredibly BPish to me right now. I hope he gets to go to that doctor sooner rather than later. Church camp will be uncomfortable I bet...sorry for that, Chris.

Heather
Mom of Alexa, (17 years old) Diagnosed BP-NOS (09/05), updated to BP II w/psychotic features (05/08)
Oppositional Defiant Disorder
Abilify (10 mg), Lamictal (200 mg), Klonipin (.5 mg) as needed, Vyvanse (30 mg)
Topamax at night only (100 mg) Seroquel at night only (200mg) *when she is willing*
Attends alternative therapeutic high school (Ohio)

justlovehim

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(07/08/09 07:32 PM)

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"For I know the plans I have for you ... plans for a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

They have taken him to do applications for jobs. One interview. He's been there about 3 weeks still no job. She told him he needs to get his GED. She told him he can't go to school there. I don't know how long they will let him stay. I only know that right now they are trying to figure out what to do to help him. I don't miss the hatred and behaviors, but I miss my boy. The thing is he is clean now, but still no closer to any future plans than he was. I pray for direction for him.

I bought him a shirt and jolly ranchers candy for his bday. I will have it with me at church camp. His 18th bday is next Thursday. However, unless he is nice to me, he won't get it. That much I've decided. I won't search him out to give it to him. But I'll have it just in case of a miracle. LOL!!!!

Chris

DS-Matt,17 : DSolder- 24 : DD- 22

Depression, dx May 2008, ADHD- dx age 9
refuses meds and NOT LIVING AT HOME BY HIS CHOICE
Waiting to see if he will attend the "Mountaineer ChalleNGe Academy"
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" Philippians 4:4

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(07/08/09 07:47 PM)

Were they ever able to get him to the dr? How is Mr. Chris doing with Matt staying with A?

Queen Mum has sired

Nate, 12 BP mixed without psychosis, PDD-NOS and ADHD
Current meds: Concerta, Clonidine, Abilify and Melatonin

Hannah, 7 Princess Complex addicted to all things High School Musical
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justlovehim

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(07/09/09 05:26 AM)

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"For I know the plans I have for you ... plans for a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

No pdoc appt yet. Still waiting. My dh is like me... relieved, but worried and confused.

I did get on his facebook and someone is looking for him. Ah! Now this makes a bit more sense. It's one of his druggies that he was prolly running for. It makes me scared! I had a dream last night that they were hurting me.... I woke up crying tears and sobbing. It was scary!!!

His posts on myspace were nasty still. He hasn't been on the facebook. Changed his name on his myspace.... yeah, wonder why?

Chris

DS-Matt,17 : DSolder- 24 : DD- 22

Depression, dx May 2008, ADHD- dx age 9
refuses meds and NOT LIVING AT HOME BY HIS CHOICE
Waiting to see if he will attend the "Mountaineer ChalleNGe Academy"
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" Philippians 4:4

Tracy

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(07/09/09 07:42 AM)

Hugs Chris!..no more bad dreams.

Tracy

Mom of Travis-18 (still trying to figure out a dx.)
was taking Depakote ER 500mg at bedtime
was taking Seroquel 100mg at bedtime
was taking Celexa 20mg/morning

Completely off all meds at this time.

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(07/09/09 07:23 PM)

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I hadn't realized how long I had been away. It took me a long time to read through all this. Sorry to hear it.

The little brat doesn't deserve a bday present.

You are going to have to grieve your dreams for him including the academy. He is going to have to figure things out for himself. He doesn't sound stable though. Hopefully the new pdoc will figure things out and he will take the meds he is given.

Kristin

Alex 12-GAD, mood disorder, 37.5mg Effexor, 3mg Invega, 100mg Topamax BID

Matthew 10-ADHD, dysthymia, 300mg Wellbutrin XL

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