I know how your feeling Chris. I so much wanted my dd to graduate high school. She is a smart girl, but she was going to do what she wanted to whether I liked
it or not. I worry about her future all the time. I too get angry at how she gets to hang out at my house all day, sleep and then come and go as she pleases,
but I don't show it anymore.
For me the advice JoAnn gave to me awhile back has helped me and because of it there is less stress. Am I still sad and angry sometimes, absolutely. I find though the more I do my own thing the more she actually will come and talk to me sometimes and occasionally shock me by opening a door when my hands are full or something unusual as that. We are slowly making her pay for more things and she is having to adjust to that. It is a process. We did lock her out for a while and then gave her a key, another chance and were prepared to change the locks on the doors if it didn't work out. We accepted that she would go out all night, but set down the rules of making sure the doors were relocked behind her, and that no friends were to come back with her, and if she planned to be out all night she would tell us. Now we are just starting to set some rules with her taking the car, and so on. Hang in there, and I will be praying for Matt and you. hugggs.
For me the advice JoAnn gave to me awhile back has helped me and because of it there is less stress. Am I still sad and angry sometimes, absolutely. I find though the more I do my own thing the more she actually will come and talk to me sometimes and occasionally shock me by opening a door when my hands are full or something unusual as that. We are slowly making her pay for more things and she is having to adjust to that. It is a process. We did lock her out for a while and then gave her a key, another chance and were prepared to change the locks on the doors if it didn't work out. We accepted that she would go out all night, but set down the rules of making sure the doors were relocked behind her, and that no friends were to come back with her, and if she planned to be out all night she would tell us. Now we are just starting to set some rules with her taking the car, and so on. Hang in there, and I will be praying for Matt and you. hugggs.
Chris
