Now would be a good time to meet with your dd and create solid ground rules about dating. Who, when, where, how old and what she can and should not expect to be able to do etc...

My advice is to supervise the meetings between your dd and her new 'boyfriend'. Oh - and if you believe that having her in 'groups of friends' situations will be just as good as having an adult there...I disagree. It was during a supposed 'group outing' to the movies that my youngest ds's bmom became pg (she was barely 14 at the time).

A 14 yr old boy must be getting something (or expect to) from a 12yr old girl or he would lose interest fast. Especially a long distance relationship. Mature for her age or not...your dd is at risk when 'dating': she is young, inexperienced and vulnerable. Even if the boy is a nice boy - he is also young. Opportunity is your enemy - not the boy. Remove the opportunity for them to be completely alone by supervising them. Offer lots of adult supervised contact to show your dd that you are not opposed to the friendship. Your dd will not like it but tough sh*t. She is only 12 for heaven's sake. She does not have to like it.





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