I have heard of the book, but never read it....I will check into that...It sounds good. The problem I encounter the most is people that do not understand, giving me hell about the "thrid" basket. This occurs mostly with his step-father, and other people close to us with good intentions. They don't understand that choosing battles is important, he is not like other kids, and things that are not tolerated by his siblings are tolerated from him to a certain extent. I here how I treat my four kids differently and show favoritism, when in reality I think I am treating them as the unique individuals they are. I do not treat them the same, my 9 year old only needs to hear that I am disappointed in her and she will change her behavior. My 12 year old needs a little more than that, because she doesn't live just to make me happy, My T almost needs me to go off the deep end before he thinks, "man, I think mom is serious"....and sometimes that will not even phase him! I also have a 15month old, and I don't have a clue as to what will work with her yet.....They all have the same rules, just different consequences when they do not follow them.

Anyway, sorry for yapping so much.....I will try to get my hands on that book!!! Thanks again!!!
Heather