I am so glad I posted here!!! Every response I get makes me teary eyed. I hate to say that I am not optimistic about finding the right combo of meds. I think we have tried it all....except Lithium. I am not sure I will make it if it doesn't work. Tyler will be 14 in a few months, and we have been seeing a doc since he was 5. I feel he has been treated aggressivley, and nothing has worked.

I admire you for sticking this out with your husband, there have been times that had T not been my child, I would have bailed. I love him dearly, but damn its hard to continue this battle. In the mornings I hear him stirring in his room and I cross my fingers hoping he will sleep a little longer. He can ruin my day in the first 2.5 seconds he is awake. I feel awful that I think/feel this way about my own son. When we go out in public people think I am mean and nasty, he speaks and/or does something that may not appear all that out of line, but I have already dealt with him and/argued with him all day long. At 13 he will throw himself to the ground and cry like he is two if he doesn't get his way (only at home). We had one situation when he was about nine that I still do not share with many people....He had gotten in trouble for something petty, I cannot recall what it was, but he had to write 20 sentences. I was not going to let him get up until he did. He tried everything to get out of it..begging, crying, screaming. cussing....I was not budging, and he could not take it!!! As a final effort to blow my mind, he stood by the dining room table and peed all over himself!!!! That didn't work for him, I made him finish those sentences in his wet pants. The docs/therapists have all told me that if I keep sticking to consequences it will work....BULL! One of the last really bad things he did was also in an effort to not face a normal consequence for his actions. I wouldn't budge, so my carpet was caught on fire.
I have three other children, T being the oldest, and none of them would dare go to the lenghths he does. I stick to my consequences as much as I can, but honestly, they don't make a difference in the end and they are not worth the huge 7-8 hour battles the family has to endure. I am tired of being told by others to punish this out of him...they don't have a clue, and think I am an idiot, who just makes up excuses because I am lazy. If they only had a clue!!!!!!