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Shelby's care, and also issues with puberty

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(07/01/09 07:54 PM)

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I took her to the Dr. yesterday and we discussed whether or not her over-reactions and other issues were due to ADHD, or bipolar.. her symptoms were not really pointing to the ADHD, so we decided to try her on a small dose of Depakote.. Last night she was WIDE awake by midnight after sleeping for a few hours, she went back to bed a few hours later, and tonight she is saying the same thing.. I dont know if its the excitement of a new game that I downloaded on her cell phone- deer hunter 3D, or what.. But I am keeping a diary..
Also, I spoke with my pharmacist yesterday and asked him if there was some type of vitamin to help shelby with her cramps and break-outs along with her moods (which came up along with his long questioning at the Dr.) he asked me how old she was and I said 10, she will be 11 in Dec. and I do not want her starting her period for a few more years, thats young enough, He said its called Precocious puberty.. and the dr could help her with that to stop it in its tracks to give her a few more years to mature and get ready physically as well as mentally for her maturation.. there is a medication or a shot that she can take, I would rather do that, because I read about it and if they start too young it interferrs with their total height growth and that they will lack several inches due to it because their bodies finish maturing too young to allow it to fully grow, which right there bothers me.. So I will call her pediatrician and get an appointment, and go from there, has anyone heard of this??

Mom of RIley 17- Bipolar rapid cycling with psychosis. Meds: Risperdal 8 mgs, Haldol 15 mgs, Lithium 600 mgs, Tenex 1 mg, Clonidine 0.20 mg, Trazadone 100 mgs. daily
Shelby 10: So far ADHD (crossing fingers) :) Takes 100 mgs, Wellbutrin

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(07/02/09 07:32 AM)

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"For I know the plans I have for you ... plans for a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

I'm sorry I don't know about that drug, but I'd sure be careful with drug interactions. I'd check with pdoc too before I would start anything new.

Chris

DS-Matt,17 : DSolder- 24 : DD- 22

Depression, dx May 2008, ADHD- dx age 9
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Waiting to see if he will attend the "Mountaineer ChalleNGe Academy"
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(07/02/09 10:58 AM)

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I agree with Chris. I started my period at 10. It stunk to start so young but I do not feel it affected my growth at all. Just that I was more developed at an earlier age than the other girls. I would do some searching about it.

Lynn
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Jordon 19- BP II- :goodevil
Not taking any meds.

Alex 16 - Dyslexic and STILL learning to drive slap

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Rob(Bubba) - 19 asperger syndrome - stopped taking meds.

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(07/02/09 12:30 PM)

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"Life is a millstone - YOU decide if it's going to grind you down or polish you up."

Rex, no idea. I would check with the doctor on everything though.

Heather
Mom of Alexa, (17 years old) Diagnosed BP-NOS (09/05), updated to BP II w/psychotic features (05/08)
Oppositional Defiant Disorder
Abilify (10 mg), Lamictal (200 mg), Klonipin (.5 mg) as needed
Topamax at night only (100 mg) Seroquel at night only (200mg) *when she is willing*
Attends alternative therapeutic high school (Ohio)

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(07/02/09 02:29 PM)

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Yea, I will definatley call her pediatrician.. and discuss the med he started her on (the psychiatrist) and any intereaction between anything else they may give her, I just worry because it seems so dang young to start, I was 12 and that was too young!!! we will be going to the dr real soon.. she definatley doesnt want to to "bleed" yet...

Mom of RIley 17- Bipolar rapid cycling with psychosis. Meds: Risperdal 8 mgs, Haldol 15 mgs, Lithium 600 mgs, Tenex 1 mg, Clonidine 0.20 mg, Trazadone 100 mgs. daily
Shelby 10: So far ADHD (crossing fingers) :) Takes 100 mgs, Wellbutrin

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(07/03/09 07:09 AM)

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Let us know how it goes...

Lynn
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Mom to :
Jordon 19- BP II- :goodevil
Not taking any meds.

Alex 16 - Dyslexic and STILL learning to drive slap

Step Mom to :
Tasha 22 -healthy -learning to drive slap
Rob(Bubba) - 19 asperger syndrome - stopped taking meds.

Rex

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(07/03/09 10:17 AM)

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I will.. She did well for two days, Not one outburst at all, slept good. was up for a while in the night, but last night we had a huge explosion and of course john and I got into a fight over it and he yelled at me about giving her medication, and how much it was helping her (sarcasm) it was mean. To say the least we yelled alot and I ended up telling him that if he didnt like the way I was trying to help her then maybe he should go to some of the dr appts with me, and these meetings at rileys hospital and give a little more moral support and LEARN something about bipolar and other issues we are dealing with, otherwise leave me the hell alone and let me deal with it. What do I do to defend what I think is right??

Mom of RIley 17- Bipolar rapid cycling with psychosis. Meds: Risperdal 8 mgs, Haldol 15 mgs, Lithium 600 mgs, Tenex 1 mg, Clonidine 0.20 mg, Trazadone 100 mgs. daily
Shelby 10: So far ADHD (crossing fingers) :) Takes 100 mgs, Wellbutrin

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(07/06/09 08:31 AM)

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I think what you said to John was spot on. If he is not going to the appointments and meeting then he is not informed enough to judge your decisions. At least that is how I would feel. You are doing what is in the best interest of your children to the best of your ability. Jordon's dad is the same way at times. Doesn't go to any appointments ect.. but always has an "uninformed opinion". Makes me mad just thinking about it.

Lynn
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Mom to :
Jordon 19- BP II- :goodevil
Not taking any meds.

Alex 16 - Dyslexic and STILL learning to drive slap

Step Mom to :
Tasha 22 -healthy -learning to drive slap
Rob(Bubba) - 19 asperger syndrome - stopped taking meds.

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(07/06/09 04:46 PM)

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Rex,
I understand your concern about Shelby getting her period so young, but I would be VERY CAREFUL about giving her anything to stop it. I'm pretty sure that they give some type of hormone and monkeying around with hormones can have much more serious effects than getting your period at an early age. My DD also matured very early and got her period a month before her 11th birthday. Of course, I would have preferred that it not start so soon, but I don't think it had any major impact emotionally. In general, kids these days are maturing much sooner and Shelby will not be alone. Make sure you research whatever the doctor suggests and check into all the possible side effects before making a decision.

Lynne,
Mom of Lilah, age 16 (Abilify-15 mgms)

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Thank you Jalmil!!! I felt so empowered when I said it, You can't imagine.. and I thank you for agreeing with me!!! that means alot!

Obviously his family doesnt agree with anything that has happened with us latley, in between what is going on with us and our kids.. My mother in law actually had the Gaul to tell me that what John did going with shelby and sneaking out to meet Maria was all Soooo Innocent... Nothing happened.. I thought OMG!! I guess she is going to defend her baby boy, but good god she cheated on her ex and you would think she would understand how I feel. since she regrets it all..

Hell I dont know, then my sister in law tells me how MEAN I am and how bitter I am and she has no idea how to speak to me, I just couldnt say anything, I know I have felt very bitter, depressed and upset over everything, Not just john... and I admitted yes I was bitter and I had every right to be, But in turn talking to her and trying to help her, actually help her is near to impossible when she is so Up and down and has no idea what she wants that I have no idea how to help her..

Maybe I am wrong, I have had so much on my plate I just dont know what to do next and where to turn, I have actually thought of dying. I wont go any further with that one,

Shelby's chest is developing overnight.. she needs a training bra, I still think I will try and get her into the dr to see what he says, I am sure he will agree that giving her any type of medication to stop this is a LOT premature, but I can ask. She is on depakote and doing much better.. Its amazing.

RIley's caregivers had a meeting without me today, Didnt give me any notice at all, I was pissed!! I called Doug, Riley's therapist and asked him why I was told that it was best I wasnt there. That made me even more angry.... He is no longer allowed Home visits.. which sadly is better for us, Doug wants to meet with me on friday at 10 am, I told him I would be there, and from now on call my home phone because My cell does not get service out where I live.. He knew I was pissed. and he fully understood, he said whatever Riley told you was not accurate. They did want me at that meeting, all they had to do was call and I would have gotten dressed and got over there. Dammit.

He (Riley) will be discharged before he is 18... I have no idea if he will come home, I hope not, He isnt doing himself any good.. He needs to find him somewhere to live, I have this sinking feeling they wont be able to find him somewhere to live...

I dont know what to do, I am such a mess. I cant sleep at night, I try and read and still cant calm down and am just a plain mess.. I dont know why... thanks you guys for your help. I really appreciate all your information and suggestions!!! I love you guys.. youre the best!

ETA: Broken up into paragraphs, Rayni

Mom of RIley 17- Bipolar rapid cycling with psychosis. Meds: Risperdal 8 mgs, Haldol 15 mgs, Lithium 600 mgs, Tenex 1 mg, Clonidine 0.20 mg, Trazadone 100 mgs. daily
Shelby 10: So far ADHD (crossing fingers) :) Takes 100 mgs, Wellbutrin

Last Edited By: Rayni 07/21/09 09:15 PM. Edited 1 times.

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(07/09/09 05:22 AM)

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"For I know the plans I have for you ... plans for a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

Your post is VERY DIFFICULT for me to read. Can you make paragraphs? It just all runs together. Sorry you didn't make the meeting.

Chris

DS-Matt,17 : DSolder- 24 : DD- 22

Depression, dx May 2008, ADHD- dx age 9
refuses meds and NOT LIVING AT HOME BY HIS CHOICE
Waiting to see if he will attend the "Mountaineer ChalleNGe Academy"
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!" Philippians 4:4

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(07/09/09 09:59 AM)

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"Life is a millstone - YOU decide if it's going to grind you down or polish you up."

I also cannot follow what you wrote at all, Rex. Please edit it and break it out into paragraphs. Thanks.

Heather
Mom of Alexa, (17 years old) Diagnosed BP-NOS (09/05), updated to BP II w/psychotic features (05/08)
Oppositional Defiant Disorder
Abilify (10 mg), Lamictal (200 mg), Klonipin (.5 mg) as needed, Vyvanse (30 mg)
Topamax at night only (100 mg) Seroquel at night only (200mg) *when she is willing*
Attends alternative therapeutic high school (Ohio)

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(07/10/09 02:14 PM)

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Ditto.

Lynne,
Mom of Lilah, age 16 (Abilify-15 mgms)

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(07/11/09 08:57 AM)

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It sounds to me like you need some severe "down time" . You have to try and not get so upset about things you can not change.Let go of things that are in the past as that time is behind and just look ahead. Maybe that will relief some of the pressure you feeel.

Take care of you and don't worry so much about Shelby's puberty starting so young, IMHO don't mess with nature.

Lynn
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Mom to :
Jordon 19- BP II- :goodevil
Not taking any meds.

Alex 16 - Dyslexic and STILL learning to drive slap

Step Mom to :
Tasha 22 -healthy -learning to drive slap
Rob(Bubba) - 19 asperger syndrome - stopped taking meds.

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(07/13/09 01:30 PM)

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"IMHO don't mess with nature."

Amen!

Lynne,
Mom of Lilah, age 16 (Abilify-15 mgms)

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(07/14/09 10:39 AM)

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I add my request to the others, Rex, that you try and break down your thoughts into paragraphs. But, I did make it through, thanks to magnifying the text you wrote. I also agree with the others that it is best not to mess with nature. Remember the Serenity Prayer and try to pray it regularly.

JoAnn, daughter 22, dysphoric bipolar disorder and insulin dependent diabetes, currently controlled with Lamictal, 400mgs, Lithium 450mgs, Seroquel 500mgs, Klonipin 1mg and two types of Insulin

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(07/21/09 09:17 PM)

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I dreamed of many things when he was born ...

I had a cousin that started her period when she was 8. I remember my mom, grandma & aunts talking about it. She & I were the same age. I was so glad it was her & not, LOL. I didn't start until I was 12. One of my Primary kids ... to be continued.

Rayni, mom to Nick, 22, SSI, topamax, abilify, buspar, (Asperger's, bipolar, anxiety); prilosec (reflux); zyrtec-D, nasal spray (allergies); metformin (insulin resistance)

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