Father's Day, Jordan had another 8 hr pass to come home.
We went to my Grandmothers house for dinner as we always do, he got to meet his cousin who was born in March, and he was very cheerful and playful. The baby loved Jordan BTW....LOL
We had a normal day at home afterwards. I kept reminding him what time it was so that if he wanted he could go do something rather than hang out at the house. I am still leary of going straight from home back to the hospital....I just want a smooth transition from here to there....anyways....
On the way back to the hospital, Jordan decides to get an attitude. He starts screaming at his sister in the truck, saying his pass sucked, he didn't want anymore, he didn't care if he ever came home, his life sucked and hit his head on the window, loosing control of himself.
I asked him what was wrong and I got the normal, "You know Mom, if you don't your stupid." I calmly tell him that his passes are his decision and that if he don't want anymore, that is fine. And then I said that I thought the pass went well, with him getting to do things he wanted to do, yeah, lil sis was a bit whiny, but she has been for a couple of days....and left it at that.
I was looking over at him out of the corner of my eye and he kept looking over at me with this look like what...she's not going to say anything else??? LOL
So he gets a piece of paper and makes an airplaine and throws in in my lap. I open it up and it says "Papa". He had been upset over the fact that my Grandfather was not there for dinner. (He passed away 14 months ago) I tell him that everyone has a hard time with Papa not being around. I told him that I have a hard time walking in the house still, and that even Grandma broke down and cried at dinner after he had left the table. He grabs my arm and leans on it and cries. I kep telling him it'll be alright and that it is okay to miss Papa.
After he cried for a couple of minutes he straightens up and is ALRIGHT! Back to the happy go luck lil guy he was all day.
The whole fit from beginning to end with the screaming, the hitting his head and all was over in less that 10 minutes!!!!! He apologized to his sister and said he can't wait for the next pass and said that it was nice to just hang out at home. I am so proud of him for it! Things like this would usually go on for hours and I'd still not know why....
He is finally starting to see he can control himself and that it is alright to talk to me about how he feels, no one is going to be down on him if he is honest about it. I wish he could just get over being so negative. One thing can make it seem to him like the whole world is crumbling....but he has came a LONG WAY! I'm so happy!
Just had to share....
We went to my Grandmothers house for dinner as we always do, he got to meet his cousin who was born in March, and he was very cheerful and playful. The baby loved Jordan BTW....LOL
We had a normal day at home afterwards. I kept reminding him what time it was so that if he wanted he could go do something rather than hang out at the house. I am still leary of going straight from home back to the hospital....I just want a smooth transition from here to there....anyways....
On the way back to the hospital, Jordan decides to get an attitude. He starts screaming at his sister in the truck, saying his pass sucked, he didn't want anymore, he didn't care if he ever came home, his life sucked and hit his head on the window, loosing control of himself.
I asked him what was wrong and I got the normal, "You know Mom, if you don't your stupid." I calmly tell him that his passes are his decision and that if he don't want anymore, that is fine. And then I said that I thought the pass went well, with him getting to do things he wanted to do, yeah, lil sis was a bit whiny, but she has been for a couple of days....and left it at that.
I was looking over at him out of the corner of my eye and he kept looking over at me with this look like what...she's not going to say anything else??? LOL
So he gets a piece of paper and makes an airplaine and throws in in my lap. I open it up and it says "Papa". He had been upset over the fact that my Grandfather was not there for dinner. (He passed away 14 months ago) I tell him that everyone has a hard time with Papa not being around. I told him that I have a hard time walking in the house still, and that even Grandma broke down and cried at dinner after he had left the table. He grabs my arm and leans on it and cries. I kep telling him it'll be alright and that it is okay to miss Papa.
After he cried for a couple of minutes he straightens up and is ALRIGHT! Back to the happy go luck lil guy he was all day.
The whole fit from beginning to end with the screaming, the hitting his head and all was over in less that 10 minutes!!!!! He apologized to his sister and said he can't wait for the next pass and said that it was nice to just hang out at home. I am so proud of him for it! Things like this would usually go on for hours and I'd still not know why....
He is finally starting to see he can control himself and that it is alright to talk to me about how he feels, no one is going to be down on him if he is honest about it. I wish he could just get over being so negative. One thing can make it seem to him like the whole world is crumbling....but he has came a LONG WAY! I'm so happy!
Just had to share....
Chris
